FROM A READER:
Hello Sex-Sensual Griot!
I just read your blog on "Sexual Reflexology". Interesting I have to say. However as a single man who does not engage with women very much, I find it kinda sad that not being sexual active is taking its toll on me health wise. I mean I'm a vegetarian and I take very good care of my body, but going out and trying to find sexual fulfillment is a tall order.
Many women in this society are conditioned to believe that sexual intimacy has to be justified by either social morals, religion, popular culture, money...etc. At no point does basic biological function come into the conversation. So therefore if you're a man looking to get into something physically stimulating with a lady who's not drunk, high or only looking for some cheap, monetary exchange it's almost impossible. Bars, clubs... it's all a complete waste of time because even if you did find someone willing to have sex with you, it's not going to be something deeply stimulating if you a man who can appreciate such things, like me. So I would say to any single man out here who respects women and loves sex, it's hopeless.
I hope you'll, if you haven't already, write a blog addressing issues like these, especially to women so that maybe we can at least have an honest dialog about sexual behavior. I believe that if you could, some "relationships" could even be saved. Because as long as we look at sex as some sort of reward, trophy to be won or a holy grail, the dysfunction between men and women will never end.
PEACE! World.
FROM THE SEX-SENSUAL GRIOT:
When we do not nurture our needs as sexual beings, our overall health will eventually take a nose dive and this blockage will reveal itself in a number of specific ways. This undeveloped awareness and sexual consciousness can happen with anyone regardless of whether they are a vegetarian and take good care of their body. Taking care of our sex-sensual needs is like harnessing the life force (sexual energy) so it moves through the body in a balanced and empowering fashion.
Both men and women are conditioned by their childhood development, their caretakers and the external structures of society that continue to influence the choices of their beliefs. Unless each individual take the conscious responsibility to address, balance and heal unresolved issues within the first 3 chakras, then society will continue to be stuck at a lower consciousness – we are the ingredients of society.
My dear reader, one thing that came through to me in your note is “your conditioning” and “your beliefs". It appears you are creating the women and the scenarios that correspond with the current quality and condition of your energy centers (chakras). Your chosen words like “it’s hopeless” will continue to cultivate and create such. Though consciously you desire what you consider the best or better, at least, your deeply ingrained conditioning (your unconscious self) is in conflict with you.
Loving, Relating and Sexuality is the realm of UNION, of PARTNERSHIP and our ability to relate, love and live with another. This can only happen when we achieve spiritual maturation placing us at a view and level of consciousness in which we begin to see and understand that “All is One”. Until then we will keep repelling and disowning and disregarding our creation and continue to attract to ourselves the teachers and reflections we need in order to see and understand ourselves. The task is “acceptance”, beginning with accepting self. Once we are comfortable and at home with ourselves then we can easily be that way with another.
“Our BIOLOGY becomes our BIOGRAPHY”.
1 comments:
The Sexual Griot makes good sense in her accessment of your report.
In another time and space, you may have been gently taught from earlier years, about what you experience internally, in experiencing your own Divine Life Energy, so that your conscious awareness would be stimulated in a position of loving acceptance of self. However, you actually chose to incarnate in the world you're in, and the circumstances of it. All this, was chosen to help you to work through the unfolding of your Soul/Spirit in its physical expression.
In another time and space, you may have learned to understand the presence of Life within your body, at the chakra levels, starting with the gate of life expressed in the world of form, the root chakra. Then moving into the second chakra area, the sacrum or "sacred area" where feelings, (the very communications system between body and soul) can be accepted, instead of repressed or shut off, as this societal system often so lead us.
Here, we are made to feel ashamed of our basic and initial experiences of life pleasure, the evidence of the very substance of BEing. We are further taught to dis-engage and avoid pain without fully understanding its messages to us.
Further up the tree of life we move into the solar plexus chakra, our central sun. When Life energies are circulating freely here, our awareness expands to our connectivity, within and without our body. Often, because of the mis-educations and traumas we endure we are shut down on this level and have difficulty in grasping connectivity and its natural order in our life expression. Being so vulnerable as infants we need acceptance to feel safe at the very root level of survival. Thus we get acceptance confused with connection, and over the years develop a tendancy to sacrifice our truth, dawning masks of various sorts in the effort of assuring our acceptance and feel connected. This condition creates an array of distortion and conflict within us, that then begins to define our external experiences of what we call our reality.
The conflict and distortion affects the very quality of our magnetism. Before we know it, our external experiences in life validate our inner perceptual awarenesses, that are distorted and in conflict.
In another space and time, we would learn to sublimate our root Life Energy, (which is percieved in its fullness as ultimate pleasure, sexual energy) up through each of these three lower world chakras and into the heart chakra, where our inner kingdom or queendom thrown room lies. It is here that we can transform our fears into courage, embrace ourselves in total with the power of Divine love, and release that which gets in our way of our own evolvment first, in order to create the space for self realization which in turn has a positive affect on allowing our external experiences to better serve our needs as evolving souls in an enbodied physical experience.
Not to worry, Tantra teachings, and close tantra coaching can help you to work through this process, even now. This is not to push you into a sexual encounter with another just yet, but to open you up to the idea of the initial Tantra experience, which is within YOU! Working to raise your life energy through the lower worlds and into your heart, first, is likely to open your awareness to greater possibilites, beyond the present hopelessness you are experiencing now. Authentic Tantra work, inclusive of a strong kundalini/chakra meditation practice and close guidance as it takes you through your inner working, could prove to be most valuable for you on many levels.
Be ever ONE-D'er-FULL, Beloved ONE, re-membering You are DIVINE!
Namaste and HTP,
MaKrystan
www.ormestemple.com
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